MEET BUDDY AND THE PROCESS BEHIND THIS STOMPER!
how to maintain a healthy relationship
Created by Mount Nittany Middle School Students in collaboration with Chris Bittner and Marisa Vicere
Born: November 25, 2015
“Life is all about connections and relationships. Healthy ones let us feel great about ourselves and help inspire us.” - MNMS student
Building and maintaining healthy relationships is an important part of life at all ages, but especially among youth and adolescents. Studies have shown that a sense of belonging with both peers and family members is a strong protective factor which can decrease the likelihood of potentially harmful behaviors such as substance abuse, dropping out of school, and dangerous or violent behaviors.
Through a specially designed curriculum and with the help of expert speakers, students participated in discussions and activities focused on the elements of healthy relationships with friends, family and even oneself. The students also learned about what we can do about bullying, the importance of respect, and positive ways to communicate.
Mount Nittany Middle School participants named this Stomper, “Buddy,” reflecting the importance of being there for one another.
- “Buddy” was created by 6th, 7th and 8th grade students at Mount Nittany Middle School with the generous support of their administration, teachers, and counselors.
I’ve been in and out of them.
A healthy relationship is something where you don’t need to be scared of the other person.
A healthy relationship is something where you don’t feel victimized or uncomfortable around them.
A healthy relationship should make you feel like you are the most important thing to someone for the period of time that they’re with you.
A healthy relationship is something that should make you happy.
But - a healthy relationship IS NOT a relationship where everything is perfect.
In fact, a “perfect” relationship is probably the most unhealthy of them all.
If you don’t argue or don’t disagree on anything, then it means that you’re hiding something from the other person, which can result in a terrible ending to what you once had.
If you let everything boil up inside you: everything you wanted to say, but didn’t want to start an argument, just remember the place that’s holding all those feelings isn’t going to hold it all.
One day, everything - everything that you had bottled up is going to explode.
Things are going to come out that you never thought you would say to them before.
It’ll change everything.
Remember that perfect relationships aren’t perfect at all.
The Mount Nittany Middle School Team:
A Poem: Relationships
by Claire, MNMS Student
I’ve been in and out of them.
Healthy relationships are something that shouldn’t always be positive.
The two people in one don’t have to be the same.
Difference is crucial.
Just imagine, two best friends, both on competitive sports teams.
This sport they play is the biggest part of their life, really.
This sport is so important to them, and both of them will want to be the best.
They would hate to be outshone by anyone - let alone someone so close to them, right?
This causes tension.
This causes anger.
This causes a need to beat them, let alone how much they mean to you.
That’s not healthy, is it?
Difference is crucial.
Difference is a test.
Would you be able to embrace somebody’s differences?
Would you be supportive of what they do, even if you wouldn’t ever do something like it?
Could you accept the fact that they don’t like what you love?
The ability to cope with the fact that someone is different than you are is as crucial as the differences themselves.
Remember that before you try to change to get someone to like you.
People set traps.
Don’t let yourself fall into one.
The Mount Nittany Middle School Stomper was made possible through the generous support of Mount Nittany Middle School and our partners.
Special Thanks To:
Pam Monk, Playwrit and Journalist
Dr. Peter Montminy, Pyschologist
Carol Lindsey, Drum Circle Leader
Amelia McGinnis, LCSW
Mary Edwin, Former School Counselor
Kevin Duquette, Former School Counselor
Ali Turley, Youth Service Bureau
Rhonda Stern, Art Therapist
Vicki Giulian, LSW
Dr. Rachel Love, Pyschologist
Students of Mount Nittany Middle School came together to discuss issues around healthy relationships, bullying, and ways we can support one another through life.
Messages of hope and encouragement were written on parts of the sneakers to help remind us to always show kindness and respect, as we don't know what the people around us are going through.
The pictures to the left provide a look at some of our speakers, activities and decorated pieces. Students participated in the game "Me Too," learned about creative writing, healthy vs. unhealthy relationship behaviors, art as a form of healing and relaxation, mindfulness, and the importance of loving yourself for who you are, not who you think you should be.
Types of Relationships:
A Big Thank You:
What is a healthy relationship?
Relationships are an important part of our lives. The connections we make can help us through difficult times and also celebrate the great times. However, relationships are not always easy.
A healthy relationship builds us up and has a foundation of trust, respect, and honesty. It allows us to be ourselves and to have independent thoughts.
There are many types of relationships; ones with friends, family, community members, teachers, etc. Each relationship will add something different to our lives.
One thing remains consistent though, and that is we should always feel safe in a relationship.
Buddy was unveiled at an all school assembly in